Friday, June 21, 2013

It's my Birthday but you get the presents


This is my Birthday weekend, yes I said weekend. In my house when your birthday falls on a Friday you get to celebrate for three days.  : )  And this year mine does.  It's today!

                So Let's get this party started



This year I'm not asking for gifts, I'm giving them. I had my first novel released in February and since it has been a good year I'm going to give one lucky person a copy, but thats not all. I'm going to give away some swag.  : ) a basket filled with goodies to another lucky person.

All you have to do is sign up to follow my blog and leave a comment below. Don't forget to leave your e-mail address so  can notify the lucky winners. I will randomly choose the winners Sunday evening.




Blurb:

She has no memory of their love...
Kidnapped by terrorists and sent into a drug-induced coma, FBI intern Mercedes Kingsley awakes with no memory of her ordeal-or the intimate interlude that left her pregnant. Convinced her child was fathered by her ex-finace, she walks away from the only man she has ever loved, determined to make things work with her ex, a man the FBI suspects to be part of her abduction.

He knows the truth but no one will listen...
FBI undercover agent Jason Michaels remembers what Mercy can't and those memories are breaking his heart. Forced to keep his distance from his lover and their unborn child, Jason risks his life to potect Mercy from a cell of international terrorists who have vowed to get the secrets locked in her memory, no matter what the cost. Can Jason convice Mercy to trust him until she remembers their past, or will he lose her to a man who will trap her in a nightmare world of darkness from which there is no escape?


Good luck and have a great weekend.



Monday, June 17, 2013

What does a person with MS have in common with a writer?

                                              




                                               Mental shut down

When you have MS your mental capacity is limited on some days. Weather it be from medication or the effect of the disease on the brain itself you just feel like your brain shuts down.

This is also what writers call a mental block. Finishing up a simple scene seems impossible. You get to a point in your writing where the flow stops, your brain shuts down and you just sit there and stare at the blank screan in front of you, waiting.

With MS, and writers, the solution is about the same. Don't push past your ability at that time. Move to a different task, something simple. My sister's Doctor told her to go to a mindless activity, rest your brain.

I've been overwhelmed lately with everything going on in our life that my brain went into shutdown and have not been able to write anything on the stories I have been working on. I overheard my sister talking to her Doctor and I decided to give my brain a rest and go to a mindless activity, read.


It turned out to be the escape I needed and the mental rest the doctor had ordered. Good book, by the way.  : )

My sister has trouble focusing so reading is hard, she chooses games. Let me tell you Candy Crush can be pretty addiciting once you get started. I can't see where it gives your brain a rest always searching for the next move but it does change your focus which sometimes is all you need to break through the brain fog.

So next time you get overwhelmed, and your thoughts are scattered, step back and change your focus. You'll be very surprised on how well just a few minutes helps.

Nothing better than an amazing sunset to clear your thoughts.

Thanks for stopping by.
Lynda

Monday, June 10, 2013

Multiple Sclerosis and balance. What's a person to do?


MS Monday was a little late this week because of a balance issue. So this will be MS awareness on how to balance on your feet and in your life.


Our world is a balancing act. Some of us are great at it and some just wing it as things happen. But we all agree that the smallest thing can throw us off.




When you have MS it really doesn't take much to throw you off kilter. Just a muscle spasm can send your whole day crashing down around you.




My sister is struggling with her balance right now and we decided to think ahead. Be ready for anything that life can throw at her. She owns a couple of canes, and depends on them for support. We purchased a walker for days when a cane just won't work, but there are days in between the two. Ones where a cane is not enough, yet a walker is too much so we went to an orthopedic store and went shopping.


I know, women do love to shop but this was not the store either one of us planned on ever having to venture into. We tried on extended canes, foldable mini walker and crutches. My sister decided that a pair of orthotic crutches that support her arm and give her a moldable handle for a better grip was just what she needed for those in between days.

So between her canes, crutches and walker we will be able to tackle any balancing issues that she experiences any day. 


Now if we could just find a device that would balance life itself.

 Anyone with MS will tell you they wake up in a different world each day. They’ll have days where things are going great, and everything works. To days where your brain tells you to get up but your legs and arms say something completely different. That’s when you just smile and prevail. Our motto is there's no room for tears. Push through, and if your obstacle won't move, go around it. There's always a way.

Thanks for stopping by and being part of our crazy MS mixed up life.






Sunday, June 2, 2013

MS Monday. When life seems to get too hard





Multiple Sclerosis has changed more than just my sisters life, it has altered mine also. She was diagnosed in 2006 and I never realized the impact it made on her everyday life until about a year ago. She went into a crisis and ended up in the hospital. Once she was released from the hospital she was left with some devastating changes that ended her ability to be independent. She had to depend on her husband for simple tasks at first. Carrying laundry downstairs, cleaning the shower and simple household chores that she was not able to do anymore. Over time her ability to get up the stairs without assistance ended, but the real turning point for her was when she was not able to open a jar of peanut butter. Her hand would not grip anymore and she threw the jar across the room.

Yah, that's just how she felt, and so did I. We take the simplest things for granted until that ability is taken from us.
I felt helpless and she did also. With all the changes she was going through, and her disease progressing so quickly her husband decided it was too much for him to handle and left. Now I know what you're thinking, what an ass, but he did us a favor. Her failing marriage had her so overwhelmed with stress that it was just adding to the progression of her decline.
Her physician told her she had to quit work and find a way to get rid of some of the stress in her life. You and I know that is easier said than done but her husband really helped us. His walking was hard on her at first and she hit a low point that a lot of MS patients hit. They feel that their independence is gone and they are now a burden to their love ones and some find that a thought they just can't bare.
We saw Laura spiraling down and rallied around her. We showed up at her door and proved to her how much she meant to us.
During that weekend I watch her struggle to get across the room without her cane, attempt to use a can opener and fight to even open a plastic bag for pasta. That's when I knew she had to make a move, to my house.
That's how MS changed my life. As a family member I chose to become my sisters care giver and have never looked back since. We fight her small changes everyday. Research for anything that will make everyday life a little easier and just enjoy each others company.
So if you have someone you love that is fighting with MS what they show you is probably not what they are really going through.
Be there for them, fight with them and never let a day go by without telling them how much you need them in your life. 



Thanks for stopping by and I hope to see you back again next week
Lynda

Saturday, June 1, 2013

Family, Work and Writing time.

When I wrote my first book I had a lot of free time. It was winter. My children were busy with their lives and I had many quiet evenings to write.

It was a writers dream. full time job by day and full time writer at night, then it all changed. Spring arrived, Children came home on vacations and grandchildren decided Grandma's house was a great place to be on the weekends.
I soon realized that I needed to get creative with my writing time because it was getting to a point where there were days I had no time to write,  and I had stories in my head begging to get out.


At 2 am, during a writing sprint, I came up with an idea. I worked out a schedule where everything fits, maybe not as many hours in it for writing but family always comes first in this house.  : )

All I did was move my social media time to 5:30 am to 6:30 am
My day job takes up my 7:45 to 5:00 pm
I fit an hour writing into my lunch time. This has saved money because I now take my lunch.  :)
Then in the evenings I spend time with the family until around 8 pm then I am back in front of the computer until my eyes tell me to stop.
My writing time has been cut in half but my family is much happier.

How do you fit writing into your busy days?

The first book in my Guardians of Hope Series:

Rescued from the Dark, published through Black Opal Books released February 16, 2013.






She has no memory of their love...
Kidnapped by terrorists and sent into a drug-induced coma, FBI intern Mercy Kingsley awakes with no memory of her ordeal—or the intimate interlude that got her pregnant. Convinced her child was fathered by her ex-fiance, she walks away from the only man she has ever loved, determined to make things work with her ex, a man the FBI suspects is implicated in her abduction.

He knows the truth, but no one will listen...
FBI undercover Agent Jason Michaels remembers what Mercy can’t and those memories are breaking his heart. Forced to keep his distance from his lover and their unborn child, Jason risks his life to protect Mercy from a cell of international terrorists who want the secrets locked in her memory and have vowed to get them, no matter the cost. Can Jason convince Mercy to trust him until she remembers their past, or will he lose her to a man who’ll trap her in a nightmare world of darkness from which there is no escape?